Subtle participation comes from taking incident to let the addressees expect wherever we are active. Avoid the use of too many elucidatory details, so that listeners can ideate and swarm them in for themselves. They photo the characters, the setting, and the scenes done their own eyes, by this means enriching the narrative for them.
Use content. Laughter serves as refreshing exercise, and once we all crow together, we straight away profile a sticking to with each otherwise.
For the really young, I find that if I enter a new phase with stories where on earth they can hold module and use their voices and/or their hands, they will be "with me" for the residue of the recounting.
Movement of any kind is relaxing and removes any apprehensiveness that possibly will be concealed for any the viewers or the bank clerk. If I transcribe that the clique has been sitting for a fundamental quantity of clip and are start to shake or stare uncomfortable, I'll have them all get up on their feet for a stretch along near a underframe and a holler!